Whether we realize it or not, we place certain expectations on people; our parents, our siblings, our children, our spouses, our friends, our coworkers – you get the idea. And quite often, with those expectations, we are left feeling VERY disappointed.
For example, when Andrea and I started this blog, I had the expectation that our family and friends would always read our blog and actively participate in what we love doing. I mean, support from our family and friends is an expectation most of us place upon those people, right?
As time and blog posts went on, I became disappointed at the people who WEREN’T reading the blog. For Christ’s sake, these friends and family should be supporting us and they aren’t giving us the time of day! Of course, this is just one example of what I am talking about. And to clarify, I am sure I have not met someones expectations of what they had for me, either.
So why do we continue to do this? Why do we continue to place these expectations on people? I don’t know that answer anymore. But here is what I have learned from all of this.
Instead of placing these expectations on everyone, start looking inward at yourself. Releasing these expectations and looking at yourself are both VERY HARD to do, but you have to in order to let go of the disappointment. And while you will still be a little disappointed in the beginning when someone doesn’t meet your expectations, the more you let go of the expectations and look at yourself, the easier it will be to get past the disappointment. The sting won’t last as long. And you’ll realize, that just maybe, these are not the people who you need or want support from, in any aspect of your life.
And here’s the part where it gets real…that’s o.k!
Ask yourself, “what do I want out of these relationships?” Take some time to re-evaluate your relationships. Nurture the ones that mean something to you, and have open communication about how you want that relationship to thrive and grow so both parties know what expectations are out there.
This one will take some time, and it’s definitely not easy. But no one said being awesome was easy.